As couples navigate the reopening of our communities, they are experiencing new challenges in their relationships. What may feel safe for one person might feel like a minefield for the other. The more significant the choices are, the greater the space for disagreement and feelings of risk. Some people in relationships are feeling lonely, devalued, not seen, or disrespected for the choices they are making to be more active in the world or to continue to stay at home with less flexibility. Added to these questions is the stress of feeling disconnected from relationships with friends and family, which had served to strengthen the couple.
In this workshop, couples will have the opportunity to explore the similarities of their experiences with other couples in order to best negotiate and communicate about their differences, create a safer place for conflict, and deal with the increased choices and pressures in their lives.
Grandparenting can be a time of great joy; however, the COVID-19 pandemic has interfered with meeting a new grandbaby, supporting adult children through parenting, and the social benefits of time with grandchildren, a benefit to grandparents and grandchildren alike. Being separated is certainly a big factor during this time. It's interesting: On one hand, some grandparents are experiencing enhanced connections while others are feeling increased separation and distance. Intimate relationships with grandchildren may feel frozen in time, leaving grandparents longing for a connection they once took for granted. One common denominator for all is change.
In this workshop participants, under the guidance of a mental health clinician, will share with others the stresses and challenges grandparents face as well as the opportunities that have helped them to cope during this pandemic.
Loss can be experienced in many ways. The most obvious loss is the death of a family member or friend. There are other kinds of losses, such as the loss of connection to our family or community or a decrease in level of mobility and independence, that are not always readily acknowledged or appreciated for their impact, especially on older adult communities. Now, we are faced with the pandemic of COVID-19, its particular impact on older adults, and its associated traumatic grief. This workshop will explore loss and grief generally, but also the impact COVID-19 has had on our traditional grieving process. Through this session, participants will learn ways to support the grieving process in their communities that foster mental health and healing.
Social aggression is a phenomenon that occurs in communities and is particularly evident as a result of the stresses of COVID-19. We will address social aggression and how to effectively intervene when it is happening in our community. Participants will learn strategies to not only discourage “bullying” but also build stronger, more welcoming communities where social aggression is less likely to happen even in stressful times.
We’ve all heard that we need to put on our own oxygen mask first to care for others, but what does that mean in the context of community trauma? The impact of trauma exposure, whether we call it compassion fatigue, vicarious traumatization, or empathic strain, is real. However, our response to this exposure can make all the difference in our ability to weather the storm and find healing. We offer this workshop to give you practical tools from trauma research and treatment that we can all use to take care of ourselves while caring for others, especially older adults.
After months of being home, you have decided you are ready to start bringing your child back to daycare. In this workshop, we will explore strategies to prepare your child for the transition, create tools to help prepare him or her for all the new procedures and routines, and help parents process the complicated feelings they have in this moment.
It has been one year experiencing physical isolation. Although we have found creative ways to stay connected and support one another in our synagogue communities, we still face many challenges. This workshop will focus on current research, highlight the losses/transitions we have experienced, share practices for wellbeing such as self-compassion and gratitude, provide resources to help with self-regulation, and share wisdom from the Jewish tradition. It will be an opportunity for meaningful conversations to explore together what we find helpful during these uncertain times.
“A human being would certainly not grow to be 70 or 80 years old if this longevity had no meaning for the species to which they belong. The afternoon of human life must also have a significance of its own and cannot be merely a pitiful appendage to life’s morning.” (Carl Jung)
This Spirited Aging workshop invites participants to explore together how we understand and find meaning and purpose in the experience of growing older – the challenges, the transitions, the losses, and the joys. This interactive workshop will include Jewish wisdom for growing older, current research, and practices to foster wellness during the pandemic and beyond.
“Rabbi Hillel used to say: If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself alone, what am I? And if not now, when?” (Pirkei Avot/Ethics of Our Ancestors 1:14)
Jewish tradition offers insights, prayers, and texts on the importance of caring for our mind, body, and spirit. This workshop will offer tips, practices, and resources to promote wellbeing during this time of uncertainty.
In “normal” times, being pregnant and having a newborn is a momentous, unique time in a woman’s life. At best, it may be a time full of contradictions of feelings: joy, exhilaration, fear, confusion, and love. All feelings are magnified. For the woman, it is a time of major role transitions that may be accompanied by confusion about one’s self in the world and how to establish an enhanced identity. Being pregnant and having a newborn in this era of COVID presents new and additional challenges: protecting yourself and your baby from the virus, dealing with the anxiety of giving birth in a hospital along with the restrictions on who joins you, and managing the disappointment of not being in close contact with friends and family to experience the connection and get the help and support you were hoping for and counting on.
In this workshop, participants will have the opportunity to share their experiences of pregnancy and/or giving birth and having a newborn in this unusual time. They will work with a clinical facilitator to help shift expectations to fit this current landscape and think creatively about opportunities to manage.
Terri Chebot, M.Ed., is the Coordinator of Infant and Early Childhood Mental Health Consultation at JF&CS, where she has been on staff for over 25 years. Terri is a senior trainer and teaches courses at the Infant Parent Training Institute at the JF&CS Center for Early Relationship Support®.
Mary Curlew, LICSW, is the Community Education and Training Specialist for Services for Older Adults at JF&CS. She is a Mental Health and Housing team member through JF&CS, providing training and consultation for staff and residents in independent senior housing and related agencies. Mary has over 20 years’ experience providing mental health services and training in a variety of settings. Her specialties include trauma-informed care, older adult behavioral health, caregiver support, and holistic approaches to health care. Mary is a graduate of Boston College’s Graduate School of Social Work and has advanced
training in Eye Movement Desensitization Movement Reprocessing (EMDR), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and mindfulness.
Peggy Kaufman, M.Ed., LICSW, is founding director of the JF&CS Center for Early Relationship Support®, where for 31 years she has worked in various capacities with parents of infants and young children, providing training, direct service, supervision, and developing support and clinical intervention programs. Peggy is on the faculty of the Infant Parent Training Institute at JF&CS. Peggy has also held faculty positions at Wheelock College, Lesley College, Pine Manor College, and Bank Street College of Education.
Jennifer Meyerhardt, LCSW, M.Ed., J.D. is a program coordinator/supervisor and clinician at the JF&CS Center for Early Relationship Support®, where for over 21 years she has served in a number of roles creating and coordinating program teams for families who are at risk for a variety of biopsychosocial challenges. She has coordinated and led groups and webinars on a variety of parenting issues, provided training, and created training and information manuals.
Marjorie U. Sokoll, M.Ed. is the director of the Betty Ann Greenbaum Miller Center for Jewish Healing at JF&CS, which offers older adults support when facing the challenges of illness, loss, or isolation. Marji has developed programs such as Spirited Aging, which supports older adults in their search to find meaning, joy, and spirituality in their lives as they grow older. Marji has presented locally and nationally on spirited aging, healing, end-of-life, and bereavement. She earned degrees in sociology and social work from Boston University and Tel Aviv University respectively, a graduate degree in counseling from Northeastern University, and a certificate of thanatology from the National Center for Death Education. She is a contributor to the book Blessings for the Journey: A Jewish Healing Guide for Women with Cancer and the author of “The Healing Circle: A New Model for Nurturing Spirituality in Jewish Family Service Agencies” published in the Journal of Jewish Communal Service.